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Back on my game

September 8, 2011 in Eden's Posts

So I was feeling down for a little bit after hearing about the latest Pearl disappearance (still haven’t heard anything new, by the way), which led me to beating myself up a little bit. I lost track of the Save the Pearls campaign because I had butterflies ion my stomach because I thought I found the perfect mate. It seemed like my own fantasy romance was about to unfold, and since we have no other choice as Pearls than to find a mate, I got a little focused on my own plight. Plus, it’s fun. I want the whole love story, the ones they write about in Harlequin romance novels and young adult romance books. (Okay, so I read Harlequin romance novels when I was younger, that’s all I could find on the bookshelf my mom left behind!) Anyway, I’m back on my game. I can’t help but check out all the new online dating profiles (Hello, Charmer171 and Thai!! And that’s just for starters) because I do need to find the perfect mate so that I can avoid the romantic apocalypse I’m facing. But I am going to do everything I can, I will Save the Pearls! Mark my words!

Know Your Limit

September 6, 2011 in Apocalypse World

An important element of dating is to know when it’s time to move on. Despite all that you’ve read in Harlequin romance novels and young adult fantasy fiction, some relationships are just not meant to work out. When you’re dating and mating, it’s key to identify when to throw in the towel and to be able to tell the difference between young adult fantasy from reality!

Let’s start with the chase—every good adventure romance needs an element of pursuit. When you’re looking for the perfect mate, you want to make sure you’re not calling and contacting the other person more than they’re reaching out to you. Women especially need to be on alert, as men aren’t necessarily going to tell them that they don’t think they are the perfect mate or that they’re no longer interested. Avoid your own personal romantic apocalypse by letting yourself get chased every now and then.

Another red flag to look for in your young adult fantasy romance is making excuses for the other’s behavior. When someone hasn’t called in days, it’s probably not because they got in a car accident, contracted pneumonia or have reached a critical juncture in the Save the Pearls campaign—it’s a sign that they’re just not feeling it anymore. Never make excuses or rationalize bad or indifferent behavior—your perfect mate is not going to make you wonder what they’re doing or how they feel about you. Remember, this is your personal adventure romance, when you’re trying to find a mate you have to embrace risk and be open to change. Don’t block out someone’s bad behavior by focusing on their good qualities. You’re dating and mating for a reason, and if this one doesn’t work out, you need to jump back on the horse and try again. There will be someone else! Start browsing online dating profiles, be open to interracial relationships and know that this one guy is not your romantic apocalypse.

When you’re trying to find a mate, it’s easy to mistake a passionate encounter with love.  Remember, life is not made up of Harlequin romance novels—this is real, and as much as one night may seem like the young adult fantasy romance you’ve been waiting for, it’s not always the case.  Don’t mistake dating for a game of winning someone over—Eden Newman learned this the hard way when she expected a quick encounter in her interracial dating experience as the young adult romance she was dying for it to be. One-sided love cannot transform a purely physical thing into the fantasy romance of a lifetime. Don’t settle for someone who is not certain about you—stand your ground and you will find what you’re looking for.

To browse online dating profiles, learn more about interracial dating and interracial relationships, and follow Eden Newman in her quest to Save the Pearls, visit SavethePearls.com. We’re all hoping she finds the young adult romance that she’s looking for!

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What if the clock wasn’t ticking??

August 30, 2011 in Eden's Posts

If you haven’t seen the article yet, check out this post:
http://www.thenewworldchronicle.com/2011/08/23/male-pearl-missing-the-search-continues/

I’ve been so focused on finding the perfect mate and getting my own fantasy romance started that
I let my focus on the Save the Pearls campaign slip. Just when I let my mind wander
for a second, there were more disappearances. I hate that I let it slip because
I was focused on my little adventure romance and reading my YA novels. UGH! How
come this always happens? Is it across the board or is just women who do this?
It’s like, you get a little taste of love and forget everything else that’s
going on, the important things. Unfortunately, we’re put in this position where
they make finding the perfect mate is a priority. When it’s life or death, it’s
hard to not think about it all time. I used to scoff at the young adult fantasy
romance
novels I read when I was younger, I never thought I’d be browsing online
dating profiles—I never cared. Yet now, with the idea of a sort of romantic
apocalypse always in the back of my mind, the quest is all-consuming.

If the clock wasn’t ticking, I wouldn’t even be thinking about finding love at all. Or would
I?

Creating Powerful Attraction

August 24, 2011 in Apocalypse World

Trying to find a mate?? Dreaming of adventure romance and the kind of love that Harlequin romance novels are made of? Look no further, because this new blog is a permanent part of the Save the Pearls website and will have all sorts of relationship advice to help you create the young adult romance you’re looking for.

When it comes to dating and mating with the goal of creating a long-lasting relationship, it takes more than just chemistry or good looks. The most integral element at the heart of every great relationship, whether we’re talking about same sex, heterosexual or interracial relationships, is to instill a powerful, enduring attraction—the old school Fred and Ginger type, where you seem so connected and always complement each other yet never step on each other’s feet. The synergistic connection that lets you know you’ve found the perfect mate.

Your perfect young adult fantasy romance is really a dance between two people based on silent signals that either work together to build lasting attraction or foreshadow a romantic apocalypse, aka breakup. Below are some powerful tips for building a deep, long lasting attraction that is the essential building block of your own young adult fantasy romance.

Be passionate about your own life
When you’re looking for the perfect mate, physical attraction is just a bonus, the icing on the cake. More importantly, you need to know what you want for yourself, what you like and what you want to do with your life… and pursue all of it. Your goals and causes will make you feel excited about your life, and as a result, make you more attractive in general, but most importantly, to the right person for you. For example, Eden Newman has dedicated herself to the Save the Pearls cause. She doesn’t know it yet, but she is so attractive because of it and we all know she will find the young adult romance she’s searching for—you know the kind, the ones they write about in young adult romance novels.

Once you immerse yourself in a quest to fulfill your passions, you will organically send signals to the opposite sex and your attractiveness will just grow.

Bring it
One of the most important things you need to do to have your own adventure romance is to bring the fun! Having fun together is a powerful binding tool and an important element in finding a mate—not just any mate, but the one that is right for you. When you do things you both like, it gives you a chance to learn about your compatibility, and when you share each other’s favorite things to do, you get a chance to be creative together, laugh and create memories. If you’re into interracial dating or are attracted from those from other countries and cultures, the chances of learning new, exciting things is great, and you are certain to develop a strong bond when you enjoy sharing new things together.

Whether you like to surf, ride bikes, play golf or go to movies, engaging in any type of fun activities together strengthens attraction and makes it grow more powerful.

Be open

When you’re dating and mating, whether in person or by browsing online dating profiles, you’ve got to learn to open up to the person you like. Sharing how you feel and what you’re looking for is key to the success of your young adult fantasy. This will help you to develop mutual trust and show that you’re comfortable in your own skin. It will also eliminate game-playing and make both individuals feel both safe and excited about spending time together.

Stay tuned to all the killer relationship advice we’ll dispense on this blog every week. We want you all to find the fantasy romance you’re looking for and be able to sustain life-changing, lasting relationships. Browse the online dating profiles at Savethepearls.com to find a mate, learn about interracial relationships and more, and watch Eden Newman manifest her own young adult fantasy and overcome the prospect of a romantic apocalypse. Next week, we will share some tips for successful interracial dating. Good luck!

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Be realistic

August 18, 2011 in Eden's Posts

Okay, today, the boy I’ve been vibing made it clear that he’s vibing me back. Our eye contact was insane—it felt like he was seeing right into my mind, like he could read every thought I had. I felt almost… naked. He is so hot! We talked for a few minutes in the hallway, when no one else was around (of course). A coal can’t be seen talking to someone like me… like that. He was just inches away from my face, and I could tell he was feeling it. I’m trying to stay open to others and to just focus on the Save the Pearls campaign and not think I’m the main character in some adventure romance novel (my father always says, “Eden Newman, you’re not the star of some young adult fantasy romance. Be realistic). I don’t want to get my hopes up too much, either—interracial dating and mating is seriously frowned upon. But It’s hard to stay grounded in reality, when I’m certain this guy’s vibing me too. xox Eden Newman

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Greedy coals everywhere

August 10, 2011 in Eden's Posts

Today at work, I heard some coals talking about their vacations. They were actually complaining that they could only take two weeks this year. Are they out of their minds? Do they not realize how lucky there are? Pearls don’t even get a full weekend, let alone a vacation. Being the low man on the totem pole has literally zero benefits. It seems that the more people have, the more they want. Whatever! I’ve got work to do anyway. Lots of important work. I’ve got to find my perfect mate, tackle the romantic apocalypse and save the pearls, pretty much at the same time. So let them take their little vacations. I’m sure they’ll be whining the entire time, while I find the adventure romance of a lifetime.

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A girl can dream, can’t she?

August 4, 2011 in Eden's Posts

Okay, so I think I may have met someone who would be my perfect mate—or like they said back in the day, “the one.” The thing is, he’s from a totally different class than I am, and he’s never seen me without my coating. He told me I’m beautiful, but I am not sure if he really meant it. I know how guys can be, especially when they’re from a higher class (which is everyone but me!). But I swear I felt a spark, and it had to be mutual. You can tell when the chemistry is real… can’t you? It’s not something you can fake.

I’m going to try to not get too excited and just chill for the moment, but it’s pretty difficult when my young adult fantasy romance seems so within reach. I can dream, can’t I??

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